Judge not that you be not judged Einstein!
Chickie soapbox announcement – give me a leg up lovely chickies...
A dear friend of mine has a debilitating terminal illness. She doesn’t always appear sick, and from a distance might look like any other young mother getting on with her day.
She has a disabled parking sticker on her car… BECAUSE SHE IS DISABLED!!!
The number of people who think its ok to make rude comments, verbally abuse her, and write awful notes and leave them on her car is un-be-fucking-lievable.
Another friend of mine has MS. This causes her to sometimes be unsteady when she walks. I was astounded to realize how many people feel it is totally ok to walk right up to her in Shopping Centres and other public places; and to her face, in front of her children, tell her that she should be ashamed of herself for being drunk in public with her kids. Dead set, I couldn’t believe it.
Total strangers… usually women!
I don’t know about you but, I kind of get protective about the people I love… ah yes it’s gotten me into trouble a few times over the years.
Since I can’t be on hand to defend them in person all the time,
I’m thinking of writing out a little ‘thank-you note’ that my beautiful friends can hand out when the need arises.
It would go something like this…
Dear total stranger,
Thank-you so much for letting me know how you feel.
Whilst you have every right to have and express your opinion, before you decide to say it out loud and
Upset my children
Make a dick of yourself
It would be lovely if you could consider the following:
Do you know me?
Do you know my story?
Do you know anything about my medical history, life circumstances?
are YOU perfect?
(come on, dig deep… )
If not, do you really think you have a right to judge me?
Might I respectfully suggest that you use some of the energy you are currently using to make assumptions about and be rude to me, to tidy up some of your own stuff?
What are you avoiding looking at in your own life by sticking your nose into mine?
Is there something better you could be doing with your time?
How would you feel if someone spoke to, or made assumptions about YOUR mother or sister or someone that you loved, without knowing them or their situation either?
There’s a saying by Gautama Buddha that says
“if you propose to speak always ask yourself, is it true, is it necessary, is it kind.”
I’m pretty sure that none of your comments fit the above criteria, so how about
shutting the hell UP!
minding your own business,
how about letting me get on with the struggle that is my life and my day.
P.S. FYI. If you suspect that someone is misusing or has a dodgy disability parking sticker, all you have to do is write down their rego and ring your local council and they can check it out. Really simple and effective, and a lot more grown up.
Start praying that you never need one yourself, because then you might see your behavior from the other side, and trust me its not pretty or helpful to those who are already in a world of pain.
This one’s for you Lis. xxx