Meet your new guru.

Hands up who has a hero.

Someone whom they admire and look up to.

Whose every word they hang on.

Who they would totally fan girl out on, if they ever ended up in the same room.

Lord knows I’ve done it. Stood shoulder to shoulder next to Brene Brown for possibly THE longest 5 minutes of my life, stuck in a crowd on our way out of a Business Chicks event… so-close-I-could-have-hugged-her-and-never-let-go-which-would-have-been-majorly-uncool.

Did I say hello?

Did I say anything even vaguely intelligent or comprehendible?

Did I say ANYTHING AT ALL?

Nope.

I stood there and grinned adoringly at her with this massive, ridiculous dumb arsed smile like a mute creepy cheshire f*cking cat – NICE WORK SUE!!!

It’s great to have people to look up to.

To resonate with, to be inspired by.

That’s fan-f*cking-tastic and all,

BUT here’s a heads up secret superheroes…

There is another really cool chick who has been sitting back waiting for you to notice her…

She is

Smart.

Funny.

Kind.

Beautiful.

She is phenomenal.

She knows how you like your coffee,

The worst of your dance moves,

She has been there every time that you have stuffed up, stumbled or humiliated yourself.

Has seen every one of your awkward school photos, and will still be seen with you in public.

She knows ALL of your secrets (and still loves you anyway).

She knows what is in your heart.

She knows your truth.

CHICKIE NEWSFLASH COMING RIGHT AT YA…

This chick deserves more than your lip service dammit!

She deserves the full 5 star guru treatment and nothing less.

How’s about we consider how we might listen, include, respect, honour and pay a-f*cking-ttention to her a whole lot more shall we?

She always has your best interests at heart.

She always wants the best for you.

She gets how hard it can be.

She sees you working away, all the hard work you put in behind the scenes.

All of the beautiful kind things that you quietly do for the people that you love.

She sees you fall and get back up again.

Because she is YOU.

She is the one that you should be backing, standing in awe of, adoring.

Trust her, believe in her… invest in her.

Consult her on your life choices.

Her opinion matters.

So I say to you today my lovelies…

Stuff putting other people on pedestals.

Stuff making people with impossibly shiny social media feeds your heroes.

Lots of them are fan-f*cking-tastic.

ALL of them are also only f*cking human.

They are just trying to work life out too.

And if they are telling you that they know everything, that you should worship them…. then that’s got a big flashing sign over it that says “RUN!!!”

It’s easy to curate a perfect instagram feed, to show people only what you want them to see.

To say do as I say, not as I do.

At the end of the day, there’s no right way or wrong way to live this life… there is only your way.

And that is ok.

Own it, be proud of it, believe in it.

Don’t give your power away to people who don’t deserve it.

Shine a light on your own magnificent work in progress of a life.

Start to really notice.

Start to listen to you.

To what you want.

What you need.

Start to notice how you feel when you say yes but your heart is screaming NO.

Trust your gut.

Be your own f*cking guru.

I promise, you’ve got this.

Blog, LifeSue Muller