WRITING YOURSELF A PERMISSION SLIP

I called myself a d*ckhead today.

Which was a bit harsh.

In a superstar effort, I had somehow managed to turn up to an appointment a whole entire day early … the fall-out from the Queens Birthday Long weekend must be messing with my head.

Anyway, I called myself a d*ckhead.

And then I remembered, I don’t do that anymore.

I wrote myself a permission slip years ago for a whole heap of things that I was determined to leave behind… and calling myself a d*ckhead was on the list!

Time to get ye olde permission slip out and dust it off methinks!

Where the hell did I put it anyway?

While I was searching I got to thinking, that I see so many of my coaching clients struggling and striving to let go of what doesn’t serve them anymore, to make room for the good stuff.

Why are we so tough on ourselves?

Why do we spend so much time making sure everyone else is happy, and putting ourselves last?

Why do we waste so much time on what doesn’t matter or is out of our control?

Why is it so bloody hard to cut ourselves some slack?

I don’t know about you, but there’s so much good stuff that I want to fit into this one precious gift of a life that seems to fly past so quickly.

But it’s kind of like when you were 18 and first got your drivers licence (or whatever confusing version of P’s that lets you have passengers these days).  Suddenly every man and his dog wants a lift.

Doesn't  take Einstein to work out that trying to squish a whole heap of people into a tiny Datsun 180B, is just not going to happen people.

Only solution is to make some tough decisions, boot a few of the freeloaders out, as well as all of the empty Maccas bags and rubbish, so that you’ve got space for the people that matter…like the long suffering person who drove you everywhere while you were still on your L’s. (You know who you are ;) xxx)

Not unlike our P-plater selves of past, I think that it’s about time that we all got busy making room for the good shit don’t you?

Which brings me to Permission Slip Town…

Now once upon a time, when my daughters were in high school, I used to write a very creative permission slip. To be fair, it helped that a family friend was their PE teacher.  I used to shoot off some very creative little works of literary gold… safely enclosed in firmly sealed envelopes. I practically made it a sport!

Until one sad day, when my daughter decided to open one- doh!

“ Ellen would rather have both of her legs amputated than participate in bush dancing today.”

Yep that went down a treat.

I was banned from writing them unsupervised ever again.

So maybe my PE permission slips weren’t totally kosher, but that doesn’t mean that proper ones don’t come in handy.

Permission slips can be used for good instead of evil you know…

Which is why I’ve decided that it’s time that I dragged this long lost secret superhero skill of mine out of the cupboard…

Yep. Stuff it, I’m writing us ALL a permission slip!!!

Time to put it all out there in black and white, proof that we have permission to live life on our terms, and lord help anyone who is stupid enough to try and get in our way.

A powerful reminder, a tool, a charm, an excuse-smasher… magic!

Like a secret sword or shield to give you protection as you

move the f*ck forward,

do stuff,

fit in the things that you are aching for more of in your life.

leave something behind that doesn’t serve you anymore,

add value to your life

Kind of like when you buy that holy treadmill at the start of winter, because you’re on a mission, but you need to clear stuff out of your bedroom in order for it to fit.

You know that it's do-able, but some stuff has gotta go!

So I hereby declare that the following items, are an absolute waste of time, are hindering your steps towards living a great big happy life.  And behold as I write-eth us all this permission slip to cover the basics and get you back on the dance floor and grooving in the direction of your dreams.

Dear World In General,

Please take note that of this moment,

Date: … /…. / …

Time: ...........

I ...................................   no longer have room in my life, nor will I put up with the the following

Trying to be everything to everyone.

Attempting to be perfect.

Stressing over stuff that is out of my control.

Believing I can make anyone else love me.

I have zero tolerance for:

Over analysing.

Judging others – FFS read my lips… none of my business.

Coulda-shoulda-woulda-ing – I didn’t, so let's get the f*ck on with life shall we?

Grudges – Yawn. Like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

Bad coffee or chocolate (Do I really need to explain this one?)

Hanging out with people who bring me down.

Saying yes when inside my heart is screaming NOOOOOOO!!!!

(Here’s a few extra lines to write down anything else I’ve missed. Think: anything you might be hanging onto, wasting time on, anything that just isn’t serving you anymore.)

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Instead I will be found welcoming plenty more of the following:

Proudly and unashamedly being exactly who I am.

Loving the people that I love – hard!

Putting in the hard work, and then going with the flow.

Practicing extreme self kindness and self care.

Gratitude.

Belly laughs.

Considering my needs first for a change.

Slowing down and noticing the good stuff.

Because do you know what?

I deserve nothing less!!!

Signed

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How’s that!!!

Doesn’t it feel

  • better
  • lighter
  • free-er

to start to even think about letting the unnecessary things that weigh you down G- O – GG- O?

Can you even begin to imagine all of the time that you’ve just freed up to fit in the stuff that makes you shine?

YESSSS!!!!!

I’m going to print my permission slip out and stick it to the fridge (isn’t that where all the important stuff goes?)

And I hope that you take yours and use it to make some secret superhero magic of your own too.

This life is so bloody short and precious, and I don’t want anyone to be sitting around waiting for permission to live the f*ck out whatever time we are lucky enough to get.

Life is today – it’s not yesterday (you can’t change that) it’s right now people.

Cheers to permission slips.

Cheers to being magnificent works in progress.

Cheers to living lives that we love the crap out.

Cheers to not wasting a minute, and to remembering that someone else who is no longer here would have loved the opportunity to have the time we squander.

Cheers to supporting each other, to cheering each other on, to living the very best lives that we know how.

And cheers to you my lovelies...

P.S. If you feel like some extra cheerleading, support, accountability, to turbo boost your progress,  consider joining our merry band of secret superheroes over at Unstoppable Chicks

or buy yourself a secret superhero ring – remind yourself every day that you can and you bloody well WILL !

Blog, inspirationSue Muller