The soundtrack of your life.
I spent the last few days of 2015 on a chickie road trip…
Driving back home along the coast, wearing the world’s biggest, most chilled out smile, wind in my hair and absolutely murdering the anthems which were blaring out of my car stereo, compliments of the chickie mixed tape that my daughter so lovingly compiled for me when I set off with a map and all my life packed up in the back of my car, this time last year.
Throughout my 2015 travels, it has served me well, cheered me up, fired me up, made me laugh, made me cry.
On the very last day, stuck behind a kombi van (god I’d love one of those)
I got to thinking about the benefits of having a bit of a soundtrack, a theme song, to set the scene, the plan, the vibe, keep you company as you travel along on the road trip of life.
You know what?
It’s a new year. Time to get me a new theme song!
If time has taught me anything, it’s that choosing the right theme song is crucial.
At different times in my life, I’ve chosen some helpful and some “not so helpful” soundtracks that’s for sure.
I’ve hummed my fair share of
All by myself, A-la Bridget Jones
Roxette made me Dangerous
I SO came in like a wreccccking ball
I’ve Shaken it off
I lived my share of Bohemian rhapsody and Bat out of hell –ed it with the best of them.
Short skirt long jacket was definitely a theme song for a while (apologies to my poor daughters and their friends who were subjected to it, over and OVER again.)
I did a spot of Oompa loompa diddly do (I used to make chocolate)
I’ve held on for one more day (ThankYOU WilsonPhillips)
Had many a Beautiful Day with U2
Sung along perhaps a little over enthusiastically to Alanis Morrisette’s Jagged Little Pill (didn’t we all?)
Because I’m happy’ won me over in the end.
I spent a while mellowing out with John Mayers – Back to you
Queen and the late great David Bowie – Put me Under Pressure
I did a most excellent I will survive.
There was a particularly tragic, broken hearted year where I only listened to Natalie Marchant and Into the Mystic by Van Morrison.
Luckily Keith Urban rocked up and reassured me with You’ll think of me
Guns and Roses taught me a little Patience
And that lady with the very spiky blonde hair reminded me that The only way is up… baby
Point is, I have at one time or another chosen all of the songs on the list above and their stories. I have ridden the wave of all of those theme songs, they have been added into the soundtrack of my life to date.
Thank god, I finally worked out that you get to wallow or move forward…
It took me a while to realise that I had that power.
That I get to choose the soundtrack I’m going to listen to… my background music.
I get to choose my theme song.
You can choose to make it a strong, powerful, uplifting one, one that makes you smile and laugh and celebrates the rollercoaster ride along the way.
Or you can hang in the self-pity-ditty zone, and stay stuck in the one place.
Do you know what I LOVE about uplifting theme songs?
- Consider it a 3-5 minute magical wand.That you wave to set the mood and direction of your moment, day, week, month, year.
- Capable of pulling you out of a funk in record time.
- Lifts you up.
- Makes you smile.
- Reminds you of your amazingness.
- Reminds you of your why.
- What you focus on grows. The stories you keep telling yourself are the ones you remember and often start to believe (not good enough, smart enough, funny enough, skinny enough, pretty enough… sound familiar?)
- Powerful theme songs pull you right back on track. Remind you of how you want to feel.
- Unlike remembering paragraphs from books, poems, mantras, I never have any problem remembering the words to songs (jeez the words to every dodgy 80’s song I have ever heard is still holding up valuable real estate in my head)
- You can hum it to yourself, when you’re, getting told off, feeling frustrated, stuck, overwhelmed.
Like a Secret message from your inner superhero…
Throw whatever you want at me universe... I've got this
You can't break me.
So tell me my lovelies,
What was YOUR theme song last year?
What songs were on your soundtrack?
Is it time for a change?
I was throwing around some options and someone who shall remain nameless suggested…
A little less conversation a little more action (hmmm)
But it’s actually starting to grow on me…
I think that it can stay for a while.
There’s a quote that I love by Theodore Roosevelt,
(check out Brene Brown's book Daring Greatly to find out more)
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
- Theodore Roosevelt
Let’s put all of our 2016 theme songs into one big chickie ‘mixed tape’ and get our arses on out into the arena shall we lovely chickies?
Bring it on brand new shiny year.